Drained.

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I’m going to take a couple of weeks off. I have nothing left. I’m completely empty of anything valuable.  I’m not coping well, and I need to reevaluate some shit.

I need to rest. I need to get over this flu. I need to get warm. I need to reinvigorate myself. I feel like I’m sitting around whining. This is not who I usually am, nor who am I happy being. I need to take some time to reflect.

Things have been really complicated here for the past couple of weeks, and I need all my resources to refocus our family. I act as main cheerleader, and my distraction lately has resulted in a lot of problems with school.

I’m not happy now. I need to find out what might actually make me happy. It may be as simple as shaking the funk that accompanies flu. It may involve serious house reorganizing.

Will keep you posted.

Before December 1 if I am able.

Feel free to email if you wish.

Hang Head, Feel Shame.

I have been so neglectful of keeping you updated, I really should be ashamed of myself. However, I have experienced a very disruptive two weeks, and I am merely catching up now.

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Firstly, today is my 47th birthday. (Cheers, applause) I take birthdays pretty darn seriously. I always have. Partly, because it gives me an excuse for self-care, which is not something I allow myself on a regular basis, although I am getting much better. I tend to celebrate myself for a week or a month. Depending. I have never celebrated my birthday with a party as an adult. I only had a couple of parties as a kid, then we had the family parties where we celebrated everyone’s birthday that month. In my 20s, we were too poor and I was always working, then babies and now I’m eating so funny, and I can never get anyone together. The banking industry has its year-end on October 31, so most of my friends were really busy these past two weeks to a month. Including my husband. I hope he starts coming to bed before I’m on my last leg now!

Enough of that whining, Sephora started their Rouge Sale this morning, so I saved up for ages! Bought tons of goodies! Yay! Toys!

It seems my Botox kicked in on Monday sometime. So I’m feeling much better. I need to be very careful and ensure I lie down, avoid stress, eat properly, relax, rest, but as long as I take care I have a lot of improvement. I’m excited for Christmas!

It seems our son may not have autism. He was evaluated with the school psychologist, and while he presents as autistic, he is very anxious and has some serious learning disabilities we are trying to negotiate. They involve information processing and executive function. Once these are rectified, he may do just fine, and the autistic appearance will hopefully fall away. If it doesn’t, then he is autistic and we have more to work on.

Still having trouble with daughter attending school regularly. Her anxiety is just overwhelming.

So that’s what has been occupying my day to day. Both kids have needed more time from me, so I’ve been there for them. I’m tired today. Mellow. This afternoon cries for a nap.

I did have some fun with Halloween costumes.

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Beware the Rainbow Kitty!

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Who’s the cutest zebra you’ve ever seen? 😛

Hope you had a great Halloween!!!

Here’s hoping things get back to ‘normal’ lol!

💜

 

Slightly Brighter Day Dawns

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You know how it is when you make a big deal about something, it always resolves itself immediately.  I woke up this morning feeling not quite so desperate. It’s an awfully good way to feel. The pain is still very much there, and my back is screaming at me even as I’m lying here, but I don’t feel quite as nauseated, and I haven’t even vaped yet this morning as the kids have just got off to school (I like to wait until they are out of the house if they are going). I feel that may take care of things, but I do have my breakthrough if not.

After I get my meds in, I expect to be somewhat comfortable as long as I don’t move too much. Stay loose, just maybe I can slip in the tub later if I’m good? Maybe?

I will be lying very still and calmly today. Trying to get some good rest in. I don’t want to exacerbate things again. Not to that level.

If the pain doesn’t subside enough we are aiming for an emergency room visit if we have to on Monday. I’m Canadian, so we had our holiday last week. The kids would be in school, less chance of upset. Husband wants to be with me, he’s expressed this, there is a major crisis at work, so this would be optimal. I have time to see if it resolves, and time to rest. Naturally, if it becomes too unbearable, we go, but even though my kids are aged appropriately, I am not certain leaving them alone is possible, and bringing them is also problematic. So my husband would have to drop me off, and that isn’t ideal, either. I’ve had some poor treatment in hospital, including the doctor who told me that I was “just constipated”. I grabbed his notes and threw them down the hall I was so insulted. I hope I’ve matured beyond this.

Time for rest. And vape! 😎

I’m expecting comfort. Not miracles!

Pain, Pain Go Away!

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Finally, I came to my senses last night and took a sleeping pill. I don’t know if the nights of not sleeping contributed, or if this was on the way, anyway, but when I woke up, that right lower quadrant pain was searing. It started last night, actually. My husband was making dinner, and I went into spasm. It took my breath away. I wanted to call him, but I couldn’t even breathe. It lasted for nearly three minutes, but it felt like an hour.

Today it would twinge and spasm with any movement. I took my allowed medicine, the breakthrough stuff, and tried to relax, but it’s hard. Eventually, the lack of sleep and meds caught up, so I took a nap. I am feeling calmer, but still feeling like I’m sleeping with a live grenade.

These are days I just want to eat sugar and cry. So I had some cookies and my nap.

I still won’t see my pain specialist about this until June. My choices until then:

  1. Attempt to harass his staff
  2. Rush him at the next appointment in April
  3. Complain to my GP, who sent me to a specialist so he doesn’t have to deal with this
  4. Trips to the ER
  5. As much breakthrough medication as I can

I’m slightly nervous about harassing his staff, because they’ve been fairly clear they have nothing. I will definitely mention it in April at the next appointment, but I’m kind of annoyed the office staff goes *shrug* when you are in pain. My GP deals with general stuff, and is in no way prepared for this, so I’m not sure he’s appropriate. Hauling my ass to the ER isn’t effective, may get me branded a drug seeker, but if it gets too bad, I’m at a loss, not knowing what else to do.

What I will try for the next couple of days is medicating to the fullest, staying still, resting, relaxing, and hoping?

Any suggestions welcome, except ‘go kill yourself’. Wait, this isn’t Facebook.

Have a pain free day, my Zebra friends! 😘